Black Men : Why baby mama drama is ultimately your own fault.

Chevron Dove

Well-Known Member
May 7, 2009
one thing to note is that the mother was 22.. and the father.. 34..
That is a significant age difference and makes me wonder about the man and his choices too. Nevertheless, most young teenagers are responsible enough to be around their young siblings and relatives and babysit. So this little baby suffered under the actions of a 22 year old mother of whom, obviously was out of control, but due to her actions, she should never be allowed to be around little babies unless she is prosecuted, even the child she was carrying should be taken from her until she is prosecuted. But, the person that will carry more of the responsibility, in my opinion, will be the judge in how he/she handles this situation. I would not want to be a judge in this case.

I was abused as a child, and i tell you, if a mother goes to that extent, they will never get better without at least some hard core intervention. never. It doesn't get better for a little child to be left in the care of a mother that would go to that extent. never.

David Stinson

Active Member
Sep 23, 2016
And honestly, it IS the truth. The responsibility does belong to us if we have it. Regardless of her contributions or if she stars the drama, ultimately it boils down to this:

1 - YOU CHOSE HER! You could have just left her alone in the first place.
2 - You didn't discern that there were factors in her character that would cause drama.
3 - You laid down with her before REALLY getting to know her.
4 - You didn't handle the situation with responsibility.

Obviously this is not about assigning blame, brothers, but think about it. If you have baby mamma drama right now, how many times have you thought within yourself, "if I only handled it differently," or "I wish I never got involved with her," etc. We need to make much better choices about our dealings with sisters.
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