Black Men : Why baby mama drama is ultimately your own fault.

CosmicMessenger

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And honestly, it IS the truth. The responsibility does belong to us if we have it. Regardless of her contributions or if she stars the drama, ultimately it boils down to this:

1 - YOU CHOSE HER! You could have just left her alone in the first place.
2 - You didn't discern that there were factors in her character that would cause drama.
3 - You laid down with her before REALLY getting to know her.
4 - You didn't handle the situation with responsibility.

Obviously this is not about assigning blame, brothers, but think about it. If you have baby mamma drama right now, how many times have you thought within yourself, "if I only handled it differently," or "I wish I never got involved with her," etc. We need to make much better choices about our dealings with sisters.
It goes back to SLAVERY, my brother.

For more information, just click on the following link:

http://nationalhumanitiescenter.org/pds/maai/enslavement/text6/masterslavesexualabuse.pdf

Sometimes you need to look at black peoples ROOTS to understand the reason why they act like they do today.
 

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1 - YOU CHOSE HER! You could have just left her alone in the first place.
Brothers in the hood are taught to be "pimps", "playas", "husslas", etc.

Few brothas in the hood are taught to get their Ph.D

2 - You didn't discern that there were factors in her character that would cause drama.
How many sistas do you remember in the hood who DIDN'T have "factors in their characters that would cause drama"???

Were they in the MAJORITY or in the MINORITY?

3 - You laid down with her before REALLY getting to know her.
That's what being a "playa" is all about!

As a teenager, didn't you ever have a black elder tell you to "get all you can while you're young"???

I certainly had older black men tell ME that!

Obviously this is not about assigning blame, brothers, but think about it. If you have baby mamma drama right now, how many times have you thought within yourself, "if I only handled it differently," or "I wish I never got involved with her," etc. We need to make much better choices about our dealings with sisters.
Brothas act how THEY were taught to act and sistas act how THEY were taught to act.

Baby daddy mama drama is a MANIFESTATION of what is taught in the hood.
 

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some women are good at hiding that they are bat ish crazy...lol

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Yeah... He picked the wrong female to mate with.
Peace Deacs, Khasm..

I would also add.. that it is possible that some women become bat ish crazy/ the wrong female through dealing with a dude that is bat ish crazy / the wrong dude. If you keep getting the same results, you better take some time and figure out whats going on with you and your own actions.

I say it's his fault because of the actions he took.. and I don't just mean selecting her.. as I said, she may have been fine to begin with.. a huge part of the problem is dudes just being sluts.. and down for anything with anyone.. that whole mindset stems form a kind of voluntary.. though facilitated cultural immaturity. When you aint got to feed your kids for them to eat.. that impacts behavior and relationships.

Seriously.. at some point we have to push our folks past chasing every asz that passes.. #realtalk..
 
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Peace Deacs, Khasm..

I would also add.. that it is possible that some women become bat ish crazy/ the wrong female through dealing with a dude that is bat ish crazy / the wrong dude. If you keep getting the same results, you better take some time and figure out whats going on with you and your own actions.

I say it's his fault because of the actions he took.. and I don't just mean selecting her.. as I said, she may have been fine to begin with.. a huge part of the problem is dudes just being sluts.. and down for anything with anyone.. that whole mindset stems form a kind of voluntary.. though facilitated cultural immaturity. When you aint got to feed your kids for them to eat.. that impacts behavior and relationships.

Seriously.. at some point we have to push are folks past chasing every asz that passes.. #realtalk..
No... she was like that prior.
He didn't take the time to vet the woman.

But it's also his fault for following the advice of the turn the other cheek and walk away crowd... As you can see... He is not walking away.

Should have pressed charges, got an order of protection, gained custody of his child..

But instead he is in the bin...

So basically... Turn the other cheek and someone will simply punch the other side. Protect yourself at all times
 

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