Black Relationships : When Is Divorce Necessary?

MsInterpret

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I've never been married. But one day I would like to fall in love and get married. However, I'm very skeptical about it. Being that I know more people who have divorced then remained married.
My daughter's friend's parents are getting divorced because from my understanding the husband is very controlling and mean. They have 4 kids together, one of which is between the two, and the other three are hers.
He is opposed to helping out with the three that are hers, because he doesn't feel it's his responsibility. Mind you, the father of the 3 kids are involved and does help out.
Anyways, he's mean to the kids as well.
She went to my parent's business and got a job so that she could provide for her other kids, but he didn't want her to work either.
So he served her with divorce papers.
IMO, I feel like he knew what he was coming into when he married her...He knew that she had three kids.

Anyways, with that being said...when is divorce necessary? When you are simply unhappy with your spouse? When there is infidelity? When there isn't any intimacy? Financial problems?
 

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I've never been married. But one day I would like to fall in love and get married. However, I'm very skeptical about it. Being that I know more people who have divorced then remained married.
My daughter's friend's parents are getting divorced because from my understanding the husband is very controlling and mean. They have 4 kids together, one of which is between the two, and the other three are hers.
He is opposed to helping out with the three that are hers, because he doesn't feel it's his responsibility. Mind you, the father of the 3 kids are involved and does help out.
Anyways, he's mean to the kids as well.
She went to my parent's business and got a job so that she could provide for her other kids, but he didn't want her to work either.
So he served her with divorce papers.
IMO, I feel like he knew what he was coming into when he married her...He knew that she had three kids.

Anyways, with that being said...when is divorce necessary? When you are simply unhappy with your spouse? When there is infidelity? When there isn't any intimacy? Financial problems?



When the lack of respect and love gets to the point you are thinking of self destructive things to do to yourself and your spouse





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MsInterpret

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When the lack of respect and love gets to the point you are thinking of self destructive things to do to yourself and your spouse





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Do you think couples should seek out marriage counseling first in order to see if they can try and repair their marriage that way?
 

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DIVORCE is never necessary. however, divorce is preferrable to physical/mental/emotional abuse. biblically speaking, a divorce is granted with the hope of remarriage when a mate has been unfaithful. BUT ONE DOESN'T HAVE TO SEEK A DIVORCE FOR THIS REASON. today, we have grown to think in terms of convenience. once we grow tired of our mates, divorce becomes convenient. once we find another who is more appealing, divorce becomes desirable. once our mate becomes old news, divorce becomes a method of opening new doors...new opportunities. BUT NONE OF THAT IS NECESSARY...JUST PREFERRABLE to the situation we find ourselves in. working on my third marriage, i guess you could say i speak from experience.
 

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