Black Relationships : SHACKING UP, ain't nothing wrong with it?

SwagII

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Some folks say:five: why get married when you have the cow (no pun ladies) and is getting the milk "free" anyway. It's called shacking, aka::love: living together, ( and as some elders say it, "in sin, etc.) But, is it?:facepalm: Millions of Men and Women are doing just that, Shacking and really loving and enjoying it. Yet, in your view what are the pro's and con's involved with monogamist shacking relationships? Well one doesn't have to be:argue: threaten with "I want a divorce" talk, etc. Getting a lawyer, etc. dividing property, etc. Hell just being in a court room is a pain in the butt, etc. :(. Therefore for so many shacking has been the way to go:dance4: for young and older couples. As divorce rates are very high all over the nation, etc. Comments...
 

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Many women are choosing to live with their boyfriends, lovers, before getting married, etc. Marriage just ain't desired anymore, etc. And this is by a grwoing number of men and women, etc.:kiss3: I realize that there are folks with mixed feelings regarding this thread topic, etc. Yet shacking has been happening for decades and will continue. Perhaps your thoughts just may be different.
 

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Some folks say:five: why get married when you have the cow (no pun ladies) and is getting the milk "free" anyway. It's called shacking, aka::love: living together, ( and as some elders say it, "in sin, etc.) But, is it?:facepalm: Millions of Men and Women are doing just that, Shacking and really loving and enjoying it. Yet, in your view what are the pro's and con's involved with monogamist shacking relationships? Well one doesn't have to be:argue: threaten with "I want a divorce" talk, etc. Getting a lawyer, etc. dividing property, etc. Hell just being in a court room is a pain in the butt, etc. :(. Therefore for so many shacking has been the way to go:dance4: for young and older couples. As divorce rates are very high all over the nation, etc. Comments...
Living together is different from marriage. In a marriage the two become one and the man covers i.e. declares a covenant with his wife by giving her his name. She in turn vows to honor him thereby making him her King. He is her protector she is his nurturer, motivator and confidante. Most people don't take marriage seriously. They want the wedding and the glitz but they don't pray together to stay together.
 

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Outside of getting a lawful marriage certificate, from the district clerks office, etc. What's the real difference between having a judge or preacher marry you than just moving in together and living? If you are happy living this way, what's the problem? After all it's easier to leave, etc. Or is it? Divorce rates are soaring in this country, etc. many individuals, men and women, have had multiple marriages, and or separations, etc. Many younger and some older folk, are just hooking up and sharing in a monogamist relationship together without the benefits of legal marriage vows, etc. For many how ever it seems, wrong, etc., are making such living arrangements work! .:love: later...
 

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Cohabitation tops marriage in U.S. Hell over 50% of adults ages 18-44 have lived with an unmarried partner. **** near everybody one meets these days have been married and or divorced, etc. some several times, etc. Men and women (not all now,) are declining to get married, etc. BUT IN SOME CASES WHEN THERE ARE CHILDREN INVOLVED, Johnny Taylor's song went... "It's cheaper da keep her." :couple:
 

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Peace and Blessings @SwagII,

I think marriage brings a level of commitment that shacking up does not.

To use your analogy, if you buy the cow you're going to care for the cow, make sure it's fed, sheltered, etc.

If you are only interested in the milk, you can get a bottle of it from any cow, without the above concerns.

I do agree that many live together without marriage. It seems to be a personal choice.

If all involved are good with the arrangement, either is fine.

Nice topic, thanks for sharing.

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Destee
 

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