Amun-Ra : Sexy and Sexual?

blkbutterfly41

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I could be kicked out of the playas club for what I am about to write about but I feel that it is necessary. As a man I’ve found it difficult to explain to women the difference between being sexy and sexual and I am dumbfounded to find a reason why I even should care.

Nevertheless, the difference between the two is not written anywhere, but the reality of the two and how it affects relations is all around. Unfortunately, I think there is a clear misunderstanding of the two among women and that misunderstanding contributes to hurt feelings, unwanted advances and confusion about men.

I would describe sexy as an overall person that has a sexual element that is nearly hidden behind mystery as well as good taste and restraint, whereas sexual removes any mystery or restraint and provides sexual interest rather than overall interest. As a man, why I should even care remains a mystery.

Does it make a difference? It depends upon a woman’s goals. Either appearance will interest almost any man, but it is the type of interest that determines the relationship and seems to be confusing to women. For most men, the more skin available to a man’s eye, the more his thoughts move toward sexual activity. After that the distinction is just a matter of how much work is going to be necessary to achieve the goal—sexual intercourse.

This is not to say that a solid relationship cannot develop, it is just saying that sexual intercourse was the primary motivating factor. It was a purely physical attraction.

On the other hand sexy usually produces a more restrained approach because the sexual signals are not so clear. Obviously, there is a sexual interest but without that clear sexual signal, men tend to approach women a little more cautiously, and usually end up taking time to form a more meaningful relationship.

It appears that many women don’t care about the difference, but when complaints go out about the type of men they attract, that’s when I have a problem. Of course, if a romp in the hay is all you are seeking, the sexual look is much more effective in getting right to the point.

I am taking a risk in writing this because I could be kicked out of the men’s club for revealing such information but it just seems that women should know what they are getting into from a man’s stand point rather than by what their girlfriends tell them.

On a purely testosterone driven level, I find that sexual women attract me. I like that blatant sexual appearance, that slightly tawdry and nasty aura that makes my blood race, but I must also confess that until AIDS these would all be one-night stands unless it was real good and even then I wouldn’t have given out my real name.

On the other hand a sexy women is intriguing not for what she shows but for what she doesn’t show. It is the mystery that is the ultimate attraction, but even it has its drawbacks, as testosterone doesn’t like to spend much time working.

In addition, these women can be marriage risks and may take us out of circulation. Still, it’s not my call. Women wear what you like, but be aware the signal you think you’re sending may not be the signal that is received. When there is chum in the water, it attracts sharks—and we all bite.
Hi,

As I am reading this the first thing that comes to mind is, What age group of women are you addressing ?? Then I must say IMHO, it's a different generational outlook.

In short, IMHO, it's late news.

Young women these days have simply evolved IMHO. And perhaps not in a good way. Presently , plenty of young women want the same thing young man want. Safe Sex with quick gratification without the commitment or long term relationship.

Too many young women have quickly learned to be less emotional with sex as well. From where I'm sitting, I no longer see , young women looking to be marrriage material. Hell, they are doing their own thing.

And Again, I am not saying this is good. I actually accredit this social change as the driving force that drives a deeper wage between the BM and BW.

The roles are simply growing more and more out of wack.

Fact is the "romp in the hay," is growing more and more popular amongst both. Nobody seems to be eager to invest their emotions in relationships anymore.

Perhaps, I am the only one that notice that young men see love as a sign of weakness now.

But interesting .....................This is just my 2 cents for what it's worth. **smile**

Thanks and Peace



 

blkbutterfly41

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LOL!....Well, not tooting my own horn, but I have always fallen into the "Sexy" category.

I've never been one for walking-peep show kinda woman.

I dress sexy but still kinda conservative enough to leave a lil sumpn-sumpn to the imagination! ;) (a little bit of "tease," if you will.)

But, NEWSFLASH, Brother, I don't really think you "spilled the beans" here at all.

Most women, (I did say most, not all) but most women already know the difference between "Sexy" and "Sexual" in this context.

And that is why we dress the way we do.

Some women will give out the "Beyonce" look.

And some women will give out the "Angela Bassett" look.

Some women are more UN-inhibited with their sexuality in their dress.

And some women are more INhibited in their dress but can be FREAKS in the bedroom.

(You can't judge a book by it's cover, you know!) :lol:


Well, now, YES, it does take SOME women more time to figure these differences out more than others.

That's why some of the women who dress so "SEXUAL" will claim that they are so "OFFENDED" by the way some men will approach them because of their attire.

But, they haven't learned yet....that "When you're ADVERTISING, there's ALWAYS a "BUYER."

It just may not always be the "BUYER" you wanted.


Well said, I doubt that this was a secret. lol
 

cherryblossom

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Well said, I doubt that this was a secret. lol

For real, right. (lol)

Yes, his "Brotha's Card" is SAFE.

And I don't think it was ever in any danger of being "revoked," NOT from these so-called "ADMISSIONS/CONFESSIONS," at least. (lol)

But, there are some women out there who NEED to READ THIS!
 

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FWIW

in my experience the most sexual women that i have been with dress conservative.
i pay little attention to the young things showing their goodies because, in my experience, it is all show and no go.
a true freak, someone who is out there on the borderline of anti social sexual behavior is not trying to advertise. she is trying to hide.
those with a need to know will know. those who do not know will keep on being distracted by young teases.
 

cherryblossom

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in my experience the most sexual women that i have been with dress conservative.

i pay little attention to the young things showing their goodies because, in my experience, it is all show and no go.

a true freak, someone who is out there on the borderline of anti social sexual behavior is not trying to advertise. she is trying to hide.
those with a need to know will know. those who do not know will keep on being distracted by young teases.


Shhhhhh! lol
 
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