Black Parenting : Seeking advice from my elders

Liberty

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Are you providing the Mother of your children with adequate child support? Can she pay for day care, and find employment, or go to school?

You ask, what is she thinking. She is probably thinking that she loves her children and does not want to be separated from them, IMO.
 

AfroArab

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[QUOTE =" Liberty, post: 933321, member: 56013"]Are you providing the Mother of your children with adequate child support? Can she pay for day care, and find employment, or go to school?

You ask, what is she thinking. She is probably thinking that she loves her children and does not want to be separated from them, IMO.
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Yes,anything my daughter's need I pay for. All she has to do is tell me what they need an I order it and have it shipped or she picks it up at the store. I pay for birthdays and holidays gifts. Still put her name on the presents to make my daughter's happy. She has a part time job, when I offered to put our girls in day care so she would have more time to seek full time employment or just to give my girls a head start, she would say no an it was at no expense to her. Then like my other post, I said I offered to help her with college and pay for it while putting my rn program on hold. She said no.
 

Liberty

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[QUOTE =" Liberty, post: 933321, member: 56013"]Are you providing the Mother of your children with adequate child support? Can she pay for day care, and find employment, or go to school?

You ask, what is she thinking. She is probably thinking that she loves her children and does not want to be separated from them, IMO.
Yes,anything my daughter's need I pay for. All she has to do is tell me what they need an I order it and have it shipped or she picks it up at the store. I pay for birthdays and holidays gifts. Still put her name on the presents to make my daughter's happy. She has a part time job, when I offered to put our girls in day care so she would have more time to seek full time employment or just to give my girls a head start, she would say no an it was at no expense to her. Then like my other post, I said I offered to help her with college and pay for it while putting my rn program on hold. She said no.[/QUOTE]

That is not how Child Support works, and therein lies your problem.

child support: an overview
Child support refers to the sum that the noncustodial parent must pay to the custodian. This sum serves as a parental contribution for the child's basic living expenses, such as food, clothing, shelter, health care, and education. When a court orders a parent to pay child support, the parent must pay directly to the child's custodian rather than directly to the child. States generally do not impose an obligation to pay support for a child after that child has reached the age of 18.

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https://www.google.com/#q=what+is+child+support
 

AfroArab

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Yes,anything my daughter's need I pay for. All she has to do is tell me what they need an I order it and have it shipped or she picks it up at the store. I pay for birthdays and holidays gifts. Still put her name on the presents to make my daughter's happy. She has a part time job, when I offered to put our girls in day care so she would have more time to seek full time employment or just to give my girls a head start, she would say no an it was at no expense to her. Then like my other post, I said I offered to help her with college and pay for it while putting my rn program on hold. She said no.
That is not how Child Support works, and therein lies your problem.

child support: an overview
Child support refers to the sum that the noncustodial parent must pay to the custodian. This sum serves as a parental contribution for the child's basic living expenses, such as food, clothing, shelter, health care, and education. When a court orders a parent to pay child support, the parent must pay directly to the child's custodian rather than directly to the child. States generally do not impose an obligation to pay support for a child after that child has reached the age
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No she had one of my bank cards with a little over 2,000 dollars on it. Told her use it on the girls, anything they need. Call my bank card and she spent $271 on a weave. Lol learned my lesson on that.
 

AfroArab

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That is not how Child Support works, and therein lies your problem.

child support: an overview
Child support refers to the sum that the noncustodial parent must pay to the custodian. This sum serves as a parental contribution for the child's basic living expenses, such as food, clothing, shelter, health care, and education. When a court orders a parent to pay child support, the parent must pay directly to the child's custodian rather than directly to the child. States generally do not impose an obligation to pay support for a child after that child has reached the age
No she had one of my bank cards with a little over 2,000 dollars on it. Told her use it on the girls, anything they need. Call my bank card and she spent $271 on a weave. Lol learned my lesson on that.[/QUOTE]

But she doesn't have any bills except her cell phone since she stays with her grandmother and her mother as well plus her 21 year old sister. So she doesn't pay rent or utilities at all. Just one cell phone and she collects food stamps under my kids being there. But I do go shopping every week for my kids and take her with us and let them get whatever food they want.
 
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