Black People : Random and Hypothetical

Angela22

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Suppose you have a best friend of the opposite sex who you have been friends with for year and they end up getting married, and their spouse calls you and tells you to not to be talking to them anymore, yet your best friend of the opposite sex keeps calling you especially in the wee hours, often and almost daily. What would you do? How would you handle that circumstance?
Firstly, I might speak on why it's necessary to not speak anymore, to see if their could be a change of mind, because being a friend, I wouldn't want to just quickly drop them off though they be married. However, if they are certain they want it that way, I would respect the request of the wife, and discontinue speaking with their husband letting him know it's not appropriate at all to call at suspicious hours knowing that could make cause him trouble in his relationship with his wife!
 

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I have had this happen. I demanded that she confess to what was going on. She refused. Then I said fine, invite me over so we can talk in front of him. She refused. I then told her we couldnt continue to talk. She then broke down with the problems in their marriage. I helped her thru a bad situation.





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Suppose you have a best friend of the opposite sex who you have been friends with for year and they end up getting married, and their spouse calls you and tells you to not to be talking to them anymore, yet your best friend of the opposite sex keeps calling you especially in the wee hours, often and almost daily. What would you do? How would you handle that circumstance?
I've had many male friends and have met their girlfriends and wives over the years; and he, mine. ----There was never a conflict because our significant others knew it was strictly a platonic relationship.

But, if a male best friend is regularly calling a ME or any woman in the wee of the morning, then yes, his girlfriend or wife has a valid reason to not be pleased with that behavior. ----- Even as his "friend," I would be suspicious of this behavior and tell him to STOP.

I would also share with his girlfriend/spouse that I have severed contact with him for my own comfort as well as out of respect for his relationship with her......AND I would tell her that after I have removed myself from the situation, if his behavior continues with another woman down-the-line, then perhaps she should take a deeper look at her relationship with this man.

..... This kind of situation is so sadly common.... A woman who has a no-good man will be quick to place the blame on another woman and NOT on him..... will even want to FIGHT the other woman when HE is the liar and cheater.

Now, yes, there are some no-good women out here who will purposely pursue a married or already-attached man; but "YOU CAN'T RAPE THE WILLING."
 

cherryblossom

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If a married man or woman is calling a "friend" of the opposite sex late at night/in the wee hours of the morning almost daily, then that is a sure red flag that they are having marital problems.......and it sho' don't help an already bad situation by calling a man or woman that time of night/morning.


Plus, his constant calls to me might also cause some problems in my relationship.

Respect is a 2-way street for married and single friends.
 
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