Black Relationships : Pre-Relationship Expectations of Black Women

NyneElementz

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Ladies, I would like to ask you a few questions that may be a bit personal. This thread is meant to offer the ladies a chance to express their core beliefs regarding men and to ofer the men a chance to inquire about those beliefs to be enlightened and a bit more empowered to be better partners in black relationships.

All I ask is that the dialogue is honest, respectful, and as loving as possible. I think we can all agree that we all want black love to be better and held in higher regard. Here we go.

1 - Name three qualities that a man must possess if he is interested in dating youand why those qualities are important to you.

2 - What three wualities in a man would cause you to reject the idea of dating him?

3 - Name three important things you expect to happen in a relationship (marital hopes not included) and why they are important.

4 - Name two ways you can tell a man is a real man and how those two things tie into your belief of what a real man is.

5 - What is your belief about relationships and money? Where did you learn that belief?

6 - What is your belief about sex in relationships? Where did you learn that belief?

7 - What is your idea of a good relationship? Where did you learn that idea?

8 - What is your idea of a good marriage? Where did you learn that idea?

9 - Under what conditions in a relationship would you expect marriage to become an upcoming reality?

10 - What two negative traits would you consider overlooking for the outweighing positive traits or working with him to overcome? Why?

11 - What two negative traits do you possess that you want a man to be able to acept or work with you to overcome? Why?

Finally...

12 - Name two things a man can do in a relationship and in a marriage to make you feel completely secure in them.

Ladies, I am very interested in reading your answers and look forward to gaining much insight into the heart of my sisters.
 

baller

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with all the questions women have asked about relationships, i'm surprised they haven't attacked this thread with a vengeance. what i've found is that a lot of women DO NOT KNOW how to express their desires, or expectations, when it comes to a serious relationship with a man. even during a one-on-one conversation, when asked what they would like for him to do, their response is sometimes: WHATEVER YOU'RE DOING IS FINE WITH ME. or, KEEP DOING WHAT YOU'RE DOING. it's hard to get to know a woman, or to determine what is good for you both, when you--the woman--are unable to define your wants, desires, or needs.

KNOW THY SELF.
 

NyneElementz

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with all the questions women have asked about relationships, i'm surprised they haven't attacked this thread with a vengeance. what i've found is that a lot of women DO NOT KNOW how to express their desires, or expectations, when it comes to a serious relationship with a man. even during a one-on-one conversation, when asked what they would like for him to do, their response is sometimes: WHATEVER YOU'RE DOING IS FINE WITH ME. or, KEEP DOING WHAT YOU'RE DOING. it's hard to get to know a woman, or to determine what is good for you both, when you--the woman--are unable to define your wants, desires, or needs.

KNOW THY SELF.

As much as I agree, baller, let's give the ladies a fair chance to search themselves and then express themselves. It takes more than a few days for us men to really define and express ourselves sometimes. And in all truth, it would be unfair to our sistas to judge them over the lack of responses. Besides, judgmental statements will kill the opportunity for the sistas to voice themselves because of offense. Give 'em a chance, bro, give 'em a chance.
 

baller

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again, i am surprised that this questionnaire didn't receive any attention from the ladies. not to be too judgmental, but if a thread is posted concerning men, women will sometimes beat it to death if men don't respond...saying that men are too afraid to step up. yet, here is an opportunity for men and women to talk about relationship issues and the women are refusing to step up.

i'm just surprised.
 

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