Black Relationships : Never approached as a black woman

havokb

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I am never approached by men as a black woman. Not even black men approach me, or at least only one has. And no offense, sometimes I see unattractive black women with unattractive black men. Maybe its because I am not light skin.....? People tell me I have a babyface and it doesn't help that I am a petite girl. People always ask me for my age all the time. 5'6 and weigh 125 lbs and I am 21 and in college. I don't go to bars or nightclubs.

I am not an ugly girl because strangers call me beautiful/pretty. I am Nigerian-American and I have Sudanese men ask me if I am Hausa and that I am really attractive. One Sudanese man asked if I have a bf and when I told him I never had one before he was surprised and said I was really pretty and said that he sees ugly women with bfs. Or sometimes on the street, a man will say I am beautiful but still never approached. Then, I see many white guys staring at me but never approaching me. Why it that I am still never approached by any men-not even aggressive black men?
 

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Hard to say. Different people have different opinions about what is attractive and what is not. Sounds like your complaining that men are not reacting or responding to you as you think they should. I'm not going to blame you or make any groundless personal attracts because that is not necessary. But your story is unusual. Have you asked any close personal friends about their personal observations and opinions about your appearance or demeanor? Just curious...
 

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I am never approached by men as a black woman. Not even black men approach me, or at least only one has. And no offense, sometimes I see unattractive black women with unattractive black men. Maybe its because I am not light skin.....? People tell me I have a babyface and it doesn't help that I am a petite girl. People always ask me for my age all the time. 5'6 and weigh 125 lbs and I am 21 and in college. I don't go to bars or nightclubs.

I am not an ugly girl because strangers call me beautiful/pretty. I am Nigerian-American and I have Sudanese men ask me if I am Hausa and that I am really attractive. One Sudanese man asked if I have a bf and when I told him I never had one before he was surprised and said I was really pretty and said that he sees ugly women with bfs. Or sometimes on the street, a man will say I am beautiful but still never approached. Then, I see many white guys staring at me but never approaching me. Why it that I am still never approached by any men-not even aggressive black men?
no one on the internet can help you. go find some counseling.
 

Angela22

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I am never approached by men as a black woman. Not even black men approach me, or at least only one has. And no offense, sometimes I see unattractive black women with unattractive black men. Maybe its because I am not light skin.....? People tell me I have a babyface and it doesn't help that I am a petite girl. People always ask me for my age all the time. 5'6 and weigh 125 lbs and I am 21 and in college. I don't go to bars or nightclubs.

I am not an ugly girl because strangers call me beautiful/pretty. I am Nigerian-American and I have Sudanese men ask me if I am Hausa and that I am really attractive. One Sudanese man asked if I have a bf and when I told him I never had one before he was surprised and said I was really pretty and said that he sees ugly women with bfs. Or sometimes on the street, a man will say I am beautiful but still never approached. Then, I see many white guys staring at me but never approaching me. Why it that I am still never approached by any men-not even aggressive black men?

Well, if people think you have a babyface, maybe some guys think you're too young.

In any case, men aren't obligated to approach even women they think are beautiful.

Also, you don't have to wait for a guy to approach you; you're allowed to approach guys you like, if you want.
 

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Take it from me, just because you're hot doesn't mean when people see you they'll immediately be interested, and approach, on the contrary attractive people usually don't get approached because their looks act as a sort of barrier, people might see you; and like what they see, but are weighing the odds on their attempt of picking you up succeeding. Usually they want to avoid the blow of rejection, so they evade, it can be many reasons why they don't approach, but being attractive doesn't necessarily mean you will attract people with ease, most of the beauties I know remain single most of the time, especially the real "ladies". These women give off an aura that makes it difficult for men to approach
 

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