I will disagree in part.
A sizable portion of women use their children as leverage to get back at this ex.
These women will deny the man access to his children while leveraging the court system to extract the most resources possible.
Some men are swearing off American women and going overseas.
I wish we had a tissue box smilie for the tears Brother must be crying ...
I wish we had one for the tears Sisters must cry raising those babies alone ...
I guess we need one too for the babies that are obviously not wanted ...
It can all be avoided by the choices one makes - babies do not come by surprise or accident.
If you're not ready for them do what is necessary to keep them from being created.
Otherwise ... cry after in your beer ...
Your women overseas mention reminds me of this Eddie Murphy show :
I think he tried overseas, men, marriage, a host of things ... i wonder how much grief it saved him.