Black Parenting : I don't want my kids to believe in Father Christmas

baller

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a lie is an untruth. telling someone something is true when it's not...is a lie. just like, telling your wife you're going to play pool with the fellas, when you're really going to get busy with the ladies, is an untruth...a lie. and telling your children that a fairytale is real,instead of a fairytale, is a lie...regardless to how you label it. fortunately, i do not have to lie to my children, for them to be happy. maybe that's selfish of me, but i'd rather my children know the truth, from day one...than to find out, later, that i've been lying to them.

selfish? really?
 

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Yes, selfish...absolutely...kids don't always have the mental makeup to hear truth. If a 6 yeAr old kids new puppy gets run over by a car you gonna tell him or her that or you gonna tell him/her it ran away? If my sons uncle died of a drug over dose I would probably tell him it was a heart attack..kids don't need to know everything. If a 6 year old kid asks how a baby got in a women's stomach I'm not gonna start talking about sex. Kids need to be nurtured. Of course these examples don't really correlate with Santa but they are lies. In this world a child's innocence goes away pretty quick.. I'm holding on my kids for as long as I can.
 

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a lie is an untruth. telling someone something is true when it's not...is a lie. just like, telling your wife you're going to play pool with the fellas, when you're really going to get busy with the ladies, is an untruth...a lie. and telling your children that a fairytale is real,instead of a fairytale, is a lie...regardless to how you label it. fortunately, i do not have to lie to my children, for them to be happy. maybe that's selfish of me, but i'd rather my children know the truth, from day one...than to find out, later, that i've been lying to them.

selfish? really?
People will say anything to defend why they deceive their children all to see them smile for that ridiculous holiday.

Having one's own babies believe in lies has absolutely nothing to do with allowing them to remain innocent and live as happy, playful children. How can one even speak of innocence when they're actively filling their child's head with deception that does nothing toward their growth to being better human beings?

It's not at all selfish of you to be upfront and honest with your children about a fairytale being just that.
 

baller

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Maybe i am being selfish, Angela. maybe the truth is too harsh for some people's children...and they've discovered that a lie is more soothing, and therefore, more educational and uplifting for their children. i shouldn't try to sway these people to my way of thinking, just because i don't get why they feel that the only way their children can be happy is through their lies. that's them. they know what's best for their children. who am i to question why they would want to do that.

on the other hand, if i choose to tell my children the truth, vice their lies, they shouldn't try to sway me to their way of thinking--you do you, and i'll do me. if their children don't have the mental makeup to hear the truth, they shouldn't be told the truth. they would know that better than i would. with that said, and to keep from breaking any of Destee's rules, i'm going to walk away.
 

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