Is there a reason you are constantly searching for implications behind what is explicitly stated?SAMURAI36 said:I'm not exact what (or IF) you're implying here
So how does this work on a practical basis? Doesn't one party have to express interest first? IAnd, to yet again clarify, it's not that I'm necessarily waiting for women to gain my interest, or approach me. I would actually like for there to be a share responsibility on the part of both genders.
Not at all, because you neglected to bold the following few words that completed the thought: "While for sisters this isn't usually a problem that is as evident as it is with men (mainly because women are waiting for someone to approach them, so their immaturity may not be as readily apparant)." This does not conflict with my statement here, and I am not attempting to justify immaturity. Just stating a reason it may not be as apparant.Doesn't this negate your previous statement:
Uhmmm, since when was this "your advice"? I've been saying this for as long as I've been on this site.
See above.They prepared me quite well, just not for this particular society and culture, and especially for the region that I currently live in.
I am not sure how the answer to your simile about school and your situation can be based on experience, but...Again, how much of this is based on experience?
Not true, as I stated one would probably have to seek education beyond what they wasted their time in school learning (i.e. certifications) if they are ill-equipped for the "real world."Both the medical and technology fields negate this. Because there is so much rapid development in both, institutions are opting for certifications in much of both, instead of degrees.
No, they are learning far less.And even on a far more rudimentary level, was what you learned when you were in the 7th grade, the same as what they are learning in that same grade now?
That's not my experience, and "nearly every" is not "every."Nearly every "high-school sweetheart" couple I know is in marital or relationship crisis.
Just because previous generations valued marriage more and may have stayed married longer or in higher numbers does not mean they were not also in "relationship crisis." Women today just have more options, and aren't as defined by their marraiges as they once were. Far less women tolerate cheating and men who spend no time at home (because they are "working") than did in the "yester-year" you speak of.Now, if you are speaking about the "high-school sweethearts" of yester-year (that golden generation of yore), then I'd be inclined to agree, except that just points to the point I just made, about some ideals becoming obsolete with the times. I know for a fact that 65% of marriages didn't end in divorce back then, as they do now.
So since you've stated you don't think you have the patience/skill necessary to have a long-term relationship with a Black woman at this point, how are you catching up exactly? I mean, besides recognizing the reality you are faced with, what steps have you taken to "play catch-up"? And if you feel you were "prepared" for a Caribbean woman, why not seek out one? There is more I have in mind that I feel relates here, but I will keep it to myself for fear of putting you "on the couch."I'm sure my mother and family were hoping that I would have dating and married a Caribbean woman, which is what they were obviously preparing me for. But alas, my Mother returned to the Essence, and alot of things about my life changed and now I'm struggling to play catch-up.
Not exactly. The whole college reference (which you started with the whole school example) does not mention experience at all, just knowledge or lack therof.Again, this is something not to assume, and I'm sure that some part of you realizes this, as per your college statement in the first place.
For reasons I believe (if memory serves me correctly) I already shared with you. Either way, unless I go into a detailed history of every relationship I have been in and compare that with what I have learned from others, there is no way to answer your question with any accuracy.I too am unsure of how to quantify this, given that you tend to guard your age, background and personal history very closely.
I'm not trying to come off like some psychotherapist here, but you do ask for solutions or either admittance of responsibility from certain parties on this particular topic. And out of curiosity, in which "scenarios" do you feel I am in need of assistance with my mental health ?I often feel like, when it come to you and me, I am on the couch, and you are sitting behind the desk, when something tells me that, in some scenarios, the roles should be reversed.
But I digress.......
You asked me how much of my perspective is based on personal experience, and I tried to answer to the best of my ability, considering I cannot give you any sort of percentage breakdown or anything.I am rather lost, as to how this pertains not only the specific statement that you quoted from me, but to my sentiment expressed overall? Who else's relationship history save my own, have I been speaking about here?