Amun-Ra : Boob Bars and Mastubation

Do you agree or disagree?

  • Yes

    Votes: 10 41.7%
  • No

    Votes: 14 58.3%
  • Why?

    Votes: 0 0.0%

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Amun-Ra

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Yiu nailed it there--I literally at least 20 women who will not engage in anything they consider outside the rules such as non-missionary positions, oral sex and havinfg sex anywhere except the bed. Some even have scheduled times. Of course, I kept my mouth shut and listened because it is not often we men get to sit in on conversations like that, so it is best to keep your mouth shut and just keep your ears open--of course when it was over, I said--****! This is what I got for assuming. I just assumed that when two people had special feelings for each other that the sky was the limit, but I know now that some can't overcome early programming, both men and women, and they their partners loving them, but wanting just a little more. If visiting the boob bar helps then I am all for it. It's when men and women go there thinking its the place to find some extracurricula entertainment that they err. Personally, I love talking trash with the women there. I don't believe a thing they say and I am sure they don't belive a thing I say, but that's the fun. We are allplay acting and agreeing that it is okay. Problems arise when some people can't tell the difference. By the way, I need to clarify an earlier remark, when I said women go to the boob bars too--they do and for a variety of reasons just like men. Some are lesbian which if that is the case, what better place to go and meet women and interface with them. Of course, some don't understand the play acting part just like men. I've asked myself many times, would I go to the boob bar if they didn't have the free lunch? A well stocked buffet--for free--and a few naked women to look at is hard competition for the male dollar for Burger King. I'd pay $10 any day to look at some half named young women with great bodies, than pay $5 at Burger King toi get my burger thrown at me and done wrong. But, if they didn't have the food, I think my visits would be seriously curtailed. I'm cheap! As much as I like those sweet lovellies, I just have to use my imagination. Another note, I know six women who say they do not want oral sex because it isn't a natural way to come. That's what they said. I kept my mouth shut. I wanted to say something, but when information is that good, you have to restrain yourself and just listen.

Me? I'm the freeky deeky man--always was, always will be--with the right woman--Ra

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triniti424

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^5 Sista Queentswana...you said a mouthful (no pun intended lol) IMHO If I am with a brotha...his happiness is mine...period. However, whenever, wherever, whichever way he wants it...because when he is happy...so am I.
 

turtle1

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I FEEL IT IS WRONG FOR A MARRIED MAN TO DO THAT. YOU DON'T HAVE TO TOUCH, BUT YOUR CHEETING IN YOUR MIND. I GET THIS FROM A CHRISTIAN STAND POINT. WE ARE TEMPTED IN THE MIND BY EVERY DAY THINGS AS MEN DEALING WITH SEX AND TO GO AND ENTERTAIN THAT AT A BAR IS TO ME AN ACT OF CHEETING.
 

sistahisis

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turtle1 said:
I FEEL IT IS WRONG FOR A MARRIED MAN TO DO THAT. YOU DON'T HAVE TO TOUCH, BUT YOUR CHEETING IN YOUR MIND. I GET THIS FROM A CHRISTIAN STAND POINT. WE ARE TEMPTED IN THE MIND BY EVERY DAY THINGS AS MEN DEALING WITH SEX AND TO GO AND ENTERTAIN THAT AT A BAR IS TO ME AN ACT OF CHEETING.
i just can't understand how it would be considered cheating. if you see a naked woman on a movie screen, is that cheating? if a woman walks by you on the street and she's dressed like a hoochie and you happen to look at her, is that cheating?

cheating to me is emotional involvement with someone else or physical involvement with someone else. can you explain to me how just looking at someone is cheating?
 

turtle1

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sistahisis said:
i just can't understand how it would be considered cheating. if you see a naked woman on a movie screen, is that cheating? if a woman walks by you on the street and she's dressed like a hoochie and you happen to look at her, is that cheating?

cheating to me is emotional involvement with someone else or physical involvement with someone else. can you explain to me how just looking at someone is cheating?
WE CAN'T CONTROL WHAT WE SEE ON THE STREET AND PROGRAMMING ON TV, BUT WHEN A MAN GOES TO A STRIP BAR IT IS FOR THE PURPOSE TO WILLINGLY GO SEE THAT. HE HAS THAT CHOICE TO GO THERE OR NOT. WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED YOU ARE WITH THAT PERSON MIND AND BODY. TO GO TO A BAR FOR THE REASON TO LOOK AT OTHER WOMEN NUDE BODY TO GET STIMULATED IS VIOLATING THAT BOND YOU HAVE WITH YOUR MATE. WOULD YOU WANT YOUR MATE TO THINK ABOUT HAVING SEX WITH SOMEBODY ELSE? THINKING IS WHERE IT STARTS. TRUE WE WILL BE TEMPTED TO THINGS IN OUR EVERY DAY LIFE, BUT TO INDULGE INTO IT LIKE THAT IS A SIGN, TO ME, WHEN YOU TAKE THAT STEP IT IS THE START OF THE DOING. I'M NOT JUST SAYING THIS OUT OF WHAT I THINK, I'VE SEEN IT HAPPEN BECAUSE I USED TO BE IN THAT BIZ.
 

queentswana

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sistahisis said:
i just can't understand how it would be considered cheating. if you see a naked woman on a movie screen, is that cheating? if a woman walks by you on the street and she's dressed like a hoochie and you happen to look at her, is that cheating?

cheating to me is emotional involvement with someone else or physical involvement with someone else. can you explain to me how just looking at someone is cheating?
Hi sistahisis...

If he can't sister ...I can,
You ask, if you see a naked woman on a movie screen, is that cheating? ...NO , because the movies are for people to see man/woman or now a days...anybody.
if a woman walks by you on the street and she's dressed like a hoochie and you happen to look at her, is that cheating? ...NO again, the world is full of hoochie's...maybe even on the very street he live on and the only way he don't look, he got to be blind! in other words, he didn't go out the way to a place (inclosed place) where he knew only hoochie's be, they walk the street 24/7 how can a man Not see them?
It's only concitered cheating if a man has a wife/girlfriend/other half...that he sleeps with every night, leave her home and go to a boob's bar. So my question would be this: Do I not have boob's? and if I'm not shaking them the way he likes to see them shaking...then he got to tell me the way he want me to shake'en and it's his for the asking...for real sister. And let me mention this while I'm on a role...If my husband/man/boyfriend can name ONE thing that another woman can do, ...that I can't do...then he's free to go to the boob's bar. and please remember that this is just my opinion. there's one more thing I need to stress to you, ...I have no shame in my game, all men at one time or another have fantasy's and me knowing that is why I say a man has no reason to step outside of his house unless he want some air. If he want to sleep with "TINA TURNER", ...I'll buy a long wig, or Diana Ross, ...I have no problem tryin to sing...feel me? on that note I think I'll get some rest now because tonight I may have to be "MILLIE JACKSON" ...and that's a job :huh:
 

caramelpython

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Boob bars cheating? That can be true depending on the man and what he is looking for in that bar. I myself have known that outside stimulation can help a married person. I guess since im a Gemini I walk on both sides of this issue and can see the ying and the yang to it all. I do agree that a man or woman should express their desires to their mate in order to optimize their relationship but as stated by brother "Amun-Ra" not all people are willing to give this stimulation to their partner because of their early programing or even religious beliefs. Some men stop in a boob bar just because it is closer to where they work, some go because the atmosphere, and others go because they need that stimulation before going home. No, I am not married and have never been married yet but I do believe in the sacred bond. Nobody want to think their other half is "lusting" over another person other than them unless their relationship is that open. It's like porno movies there are many married people who watch them but Is that cheating?
 

queentswana

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Okay python...
I guess I kinda have to agree with one of the things you said about early programing and that sorta stuff...perhaps those are the wifes that don't mind.
different strokes, ...for different folks :wink:
 

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When I was a young girl, 20 to be exact, I was married and my ex-husband used to go to the strip bars with his boys. I didn't mind for a few reasons. One, he was a correctional officer, and his friends, the ones that I met, that seemed to be the thing that they did, along with their friends who were cops. Most of these men were older than us, my ex was 26, and married. I am of the mindset that everyone, at some point, needs their free time. I was young, but I was taking care of my business at home. :flamet: That, I never worried about. When he came home, regardless of the stimulus, he was stimulated. He started, I finished. Feel me? :wave: If he went every week, I won't lie, I might have some issue with that.

As for the masturbation, I am with Queen on that one. By all means, between my mate's hands and mine, the job should be done and quite well. It definitely depends upon the way your relationship is defined and how people are conditioned.
 

sistahisis

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a suggestion to women who don't trust their man to occasionally visit a boob bar:


:idea: OFFER TO GO WITH HIM :grin: :nuts: :devil:


his response might give you an idea as to his purpose for going to a boob bar.
 

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