- Jul 30, 2016
I have been with my fiance for almost 4 years and together we have 4 kids together. We have been living together for over 2 years. So let me just get to the point....We have been engaged for almost 8 months and I am not a materialistic person. I don't want to waste money on a big ceremony when we can go to the courthouse to get married. We have a mortgage, 2 cars and a family to take care of. In the past 2 months, we were suppose to have gone to the courthouse 3 times, one of those times being on our anniversary, which he has already started to forget! And the 4th time was yesterday. He woke up so happy saying today was the day, today was the day, we were going to do it. He had to go to work but he would come back home so we could go. I missed a call from him 2 mins before 2 asking me to call him and he wanted me to meet him at the studio. And since I haven't mentioned this before, the studio is one of his lovers! He puts the studio over a lot when it comes to me and the kids. It takes a while to get yourself and 3 kids ready to leave the house, so when I finally left it was 3pm, the courthouse closes at 4pm. It takes a bout 15 mins to get to the studio depending on the traffic which there was a lot of. So after finishing up there and he walked us back to the car, I fussed him out. I have had enough with his lack of respect for me. I told him that I didn't want to get married to him anymore because he seems to make excuses why he can't when I plan it but i'm suppose to drop what i'm doing for what he wants me to do. He had the nerve to say well why didn't I say that over the phone. He planned it! The studio was not on the original memo. Why should I have had to mention anything to him if he really wanted to go ahead with it. That further let me know that he won't change and that even if we were to get married, everything else will be more important than what's important to me. I have dealt with so much in our relationship and I feel like enough is enough. How much more do I allow him to do to me and how much more do I allow my kids to see before it's time to pack up and leave?! Am I overreacting? Any males can give any advice on what's really going on? P.S. He's the only child, only child complex and is also a con person. Smh Thanks in advance.